Joan Reynolds

Real Faith, Real Life & Real Joy

Not Enough Information!


We live in a world where we are either overloaded with too much orĀ  teased with too little. How does one make a good decision without enough? Now I am an intuitive person by nature, and my gut is my strong suit (often possibly the nudge of the Holy Spirit) , but once again I am faced with a dilemma I cannot seem to process.

They have evidently changed the format of the singles site I was on about a year ago. Presently the men just hit a button that gives me a message “JoeFish232 wants to meet you”! What happens when you first go on is that every guy watching his screen who sees a decent looking picture come across it hits that button. The whole point to me of writing out a profile and talking about yourself and the kind of person with whom you might be comfortable, was to eliminate it being totally based on looks.

But, alas, it is even more so now than it was a yr ago. This not only annoys me, as I have to go and read all their profiles and look at all their pictures before penning some sort of response, it eliminated the one thing I wanted to know: Are they a good communicator and do they like to communicate and if so, about what? That tells me if I would even want to spend an hour over lunch with them or be bored out of my mind trying to make conversation. I guess this goes back to my previous blog about talk based on what where and with whom you ate. (By the way I did have a wonderful meal with a friend from my Bible study and her son after church last Sunday!)

I am turned off by all the attention paid to the outside of a person. I must admit I give men a wide berth when it comes to that, based more on what they share and if they seem to be an interesting or compassionate person than I initially pay to their picture. Men notoriously take pictures of themselves at their computer, the lens often giving a kind of fishbowl effect to their face. Always one in front of their motorcycle or sports car, which is usually very shiny and clean but they forgot to tuck in their own shirt. And one in their living room, often with a can of beer next to their barca lounger in front of the TV. I look past all of these things initially. I do wish they would hit spell check though, as I have such a difficult time looking past spelling errors. I am working on it, but that would be so easy for them to do. Often a year or two later, their picture is the same and the spell check errors are still there. If they don’t find even that worth changing, so much for character flaws or behavior modifications!

It is difficult. They keep wanting more pictures. I begin to wonder, are you making a scrapbook or are you looking for a real live woman? Do you not trust me when I say I am thin, or do you really think I only offered a face shot because I am hiding four hundred pounds beneath it? I do get discouraged. They are looking for a “classy lady” but do they really think class is something you can buy at Talbot’s? I admit I am perplexed by the way their minds seem to work. Everything they have written in their profileĀ  is usually betrayed by their first communication.

Oh for the days when we met at parties and were introduced by mutual friends. When someone could tell by the way you lit up the room or the way your eyes sparkled, that you were a lady of value and passion. It does not compute into a dating website. My dog Gypsy came with more references than any of these potential candidates for relationships will ever have. I think there should be testimonials from former wives, friends, children….someone! I have ten of these to respond to. My ADD has just kicked in and I am pulling my profile off now. God will just have to find another way to do this, because I am exhausted!

3 Comments to

“Not Enough Information!”

  1. Avatar December 7th, 2010 at 10:38 am Sherri Robinson Says:

    I know what you mean Joan. I hid my profile on a dating site because it seemed similar to your experience. It seems unless a woman looks perfect she can pretty much hang up meeting anyone yet we take guys with their guts hanging out and their vocal prejudice about things and people that are important to us. I have for some time now felt I will be alone though surprisingly not terribly saddened by that fact. My family and friends don’t seem to want to fix me up either. Seems they feel more comfortable with me being single. Would be great to find a wonderful guy. Is it possible?

  2. Avatar December 9th, 2010 at 9:56 am Joan Says:

    I hope to have an answer for you soon. God has to intervene in the process, for sure!

  3. Avatar December 31st, 2010 at 12:39 pm sharon b leaf Says:

    Your sister led me to your website, and I love it! Just reading this brought back terrible memories of my dating life after my divorce in ’84! But God intervened (after I allowed Him to) and I met my husband; we’ve been married now for 23 years. You can read more on my blog if you’d like. We became singles pastors after our marriage and boy, what a trip! We loved every minute and witnessed over 12 weddings (we lost count). Men and women of all ages seeking God first in their lives, and finding their mate along the way…how romantic is that? Oceans of blessings for 2011, and see you on the radio!

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